How to use condoms: a mini-guide

13 February 2020

Nothing says mood killer more than watching someone struggle to use a condom which is why we are here to help you master them.

How to put on a condom

Imagine, there you are at the height of intimacy with your partner and you look over to see them wrestling with the condom wrapper… and if that’s not enough of a mood killer for you then watching them struggle to put the condom on definitely will be.

We’re not trying to shame anyone here, but we all have to admit that watching someone struggle to use a condom isn’t exactly a turn-on now is it? Not only can it be a mood killer, but it may result in the condom being put on incorrectly. Some have struggled so much that they have abandoned using condoms altogether.

Condoms can only protect you against STIs, HIV and unplanned pregnancies if they’re used correctly. So here is our step-by-step guide to getting to grips with how to use them:

STEP ONE: Open the packet CAREFULLY

After checking that the condom is not past its use-by date (the use-by date is printed on the wrapper), open the packet carefully.

Don’t tear the packet open forcefully or worse try to be sexy by opening it with your teeth. (Yes, some people do that – don’t ask us how we know…) Take your time and open it slowly to make sure you don’t damage the condom inside the packet.

STEP TWO: Put it on the right way around

The rim (which is the thick circular part) should be on the outside, that way it will unroll easily and most importantly quickly! If you put your condom on a flat surface and it doesn’t look like a little hat – and the rim part is facing inwards, you’re about to put it on the wrong way.

STEP THREE: Pinch the tip

Pinch the tip of the condom and place it on the head of your fully erect penis. Be sure to leave some space at the top to collect your semen. If you’re uncircumcised, it might be more comfortable to pull your foreskin back before placing the condom on the tip of your penis and rolling it down.

STEP FOUR: Unroll it

Unroll the condom down the shaft of your penis all the way to the base. If you want you can add lube to the outside of the condom after it’s on your penis. Water-based or silicone lube can make sex feel even better, and it helps stop condoms from breaking. Remember, there is no shame in reaching for the lube!

Be sure not to use any oil-based lubricants because they can damage condoms and may cause them to break

STEP FIVE: Get rid of it

Once you’ve ejaculated, hold onto the rim of the condom and pull your penis out of your partner’s body. Carefully take off the condom away from your partner so you don’t accidentally spill semen on them. If you want to avoid making a mess then be sure to do this before your penis goes soft – that way the semen stays in the condom and doesn’t spill.

We’re sure we don’t have to tell you what to do next – THROW IT AWAY! Don’t flush condoms – they’re bad for the environment and could block your toilet.


If the scenario at the beginning of this blog seems oh too familiar then practice. Some people use a banana, some a cucumber or some just use the real thing.

Find the best condom for you

Your choice of condom makes a huge difference to how good they feel and how well they work.

Take our condom quiz to find out which condom is best for you.

Five common condom excuses debunked.

13 February 2020

It’s Valentine’s Day, which means it’s also National Condom Day. Falling on the same day makes a lot of sense when you think about it. But how many lovers will give these familiar reasons to not use condoms this Valentine’s Day?

With nearly half a million (447,694) cases of STIs diagnosed in England in 2018 alone – that’s one every 70 seconds – now is a great time for us to talk about using condoms. When used correctly and consistently they can help protect against HIV, other STIs and unplanned pregnancies.

We’ve rounded up some common reasons people give for not using condoms and come up with some responses, to help you fall in love… with condoms.

‘They are too tight/loose’

The right condom is out there for everyone, it’s not one size fits all, though a regular condom will fit most. If you bought a jumper and it was too tight/loose what would you do? Return it and buy one that fits, right? And the same rule applies to condoms (apart from the return part). If your condoms are too tight then it means they’re probably too small for you, and you should do what you’d do with the jumper – get the size that fits.

Check out our condom quiz to check which size you need.

‘I want a ‘natural’ feeling’

From Durex to Pasante to Skyn – nearly every brand of condoms out there has an ultra-thin option. Some people who’ve used them say they feel just like skin to skin contact and without compromising durability as they are equally as strong as regular condoms.

‘They ruin the mood’

If you’re fumbling around in the dark not quite knowing how to use them, then yes, they can ruin the mood. This is why we created a step-by-step mini-guide on how to use condoms. If you’ve fumbled around once or twice with condoms then it might be best to get some practice first. You’ll soon be able to get a condom on with ease and be ready for action in no time!

‘Don’t you trust me?’

Asking your partner to use a condom has nothing to do with trust; it’s about protecting your sexual health. Do not, we repeat, DO NOT let anyone make you feel as if your trust in them should be measured by your decision to use a condom, especially if they haven’t been tested regularly. No one should ever make you feel bad for wanting to use a condom.

‘I’m on the pill’

If your partner is on the pill that means she can’t get pregnant, it DOES NOT mean that you’re immune from getting an STI. The pill is exactly what it says on the box – a contraceptive. And no, it won’t protect you against STIs.

Find the best condom for you

Your choice of condom makes a huge difference to how good they feel and how well they work.

Take our condom quiz to find out which condom is best for you.