“The fact I’m HIV positive has very little impact on our relationship”

15 May 2018

Matt and Rebecca

Matt is living with HIV and Rebecca isn’t. Because Matt’s on effective HIV treatment he can’t pass the virus on, and so they spend very little time thinking about his HIV status. They’re far too busy getting on with life.

Rebecca

‘The biggest misconception I’d want to clear up is that you cannot have a healthy relationship with someone who is HIV positive. It’s not something to be scared of as long as you’re informed and educated about it, you can have a happy relationship just like everybody else.

‘Matt has always been very open so if I’ve had any worries or concerns, he’s happy to talk them through it. I’ve had HIV tests with the doctor and we talk about any issues. If he had been more reticent, then his status may have a different impact on me.

‘I would say the best thing you can do is educate yourself and talk to your doctor. If you know what the dangers are (and there may not be) a transmission risk as people on medication virtually there is no risk.

‘The medication is available and people can have a very healthy relationship.’

Matt

‘Me and Rebecca met six years ago and we fell in love. She was very level-headed and had no issues about my HIV status and we moved on from there. We had to take precautions and make sure there was no transmission.

‘Even so, there was never any drama, tears or aggravation so it was as smooth as it could be.

‘To be fair, my status is a very small part of our relationship. We barely talk about the infection itself – all she reminds is to take my pills from time to time and that’s it. The actual fact I’m HIV positive has very little impact on our relationship.

‘Having an HIV status is not the worst thing that’s happened.’

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